A dad in the delivery room was once a taboo. However, today, the journey from the first scan to childbirth is a more inclusive experience for men. Mr Emeka Okaro, Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist at The Portland Hospital, answers top questions every dad should ask about pregnancy and childbirth.
1. What can I do to help during pregnancy?
This can be an exciting and confusing time for dads-to-be and some end up feeling like a bystander. Prepare yourself by talking to other dads or reading parenting guides.
2. Can we continue to have sex?
Your partner may want to have more or less sex than before - let her guide you on what she feels comfortable with.
3. Should I go to all the antenatal checks and classes?
These will help you and your partner share the experience. Your job during labour is to provide a calm presence, so it’s essential to be informed about what to expect.
4. Why are her moods so up and down?
Mood swings are common. Your partner is facing all sorts of hormonal changes and may be anxious about the future. If she’s tired, teary or irritable, don’t take this personally - she needs your support.
5. What do I need to know about pain relief?
The options include use of the birthing pool, gas and air, medication and epidurals. Your midwife/obstetrician will offer guidance.
6. How can I prepare for the birth itself?
Make sure you’ve planned the route, know where her hospital bag is stored and have a relative/childminder on standby (if you have children).
7. Should I attend the birth?
This is a matter for you and your partner to discuss. These days, most dads are there at the birth and support is vital.
8. How can I be of assistance with breastfeeding?
Encourage her to drink plenty of fluid as the true milk production starts after 48 hours.
For more information about The Portland Hospital's maternity services please visit www.theportlandhospital.com or call 0207 3906068. Join us at our Pregnancy open day on 13th September or benefit from our free 30 minute meet and greet appointments with a midwife or consultant obstetrician. This content is intended for general information and does not replace the need for personal advice from a medical professional.